It's so easy to fall prey to the pendulum swings of "it's all this" or "all that." I appreciate the reminder that "this is here and so is that" makes life feel much more sustainable, maybe especially in this trans body. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing this. Something I share with folks I work with, is that when we are in a state of F/F/F our brain prioritizes the scary/dangerous information in order to watch out for continued or potential harm. It is a way that our brain and nervous system keep us safe. When work with trauma survivors, so often the phrase, "I have no good memories of my childhood" is said. After a period of time, and once consistent safety is achieved, you start to see glimmers of the positive memories come forward because the body is no longer stuck in F/F/F and it no longer needs to prioritize the dangerous and scary memories only.
The process of holding two truths at once, has been a significant part of my own therapy. My therapist reminds me of the fact that yes, there is a lot of danger and sadness and fear right now, AND I can hold appreciation for the fact that I am currently safe, the people I love are currently safe and that I can hold both of those truths at once to avoid despair and burnout.
It's so easy to fall prey to the pendulum swings of "it's all this" or "all that." I appreciate the reminder that "this is here and so is that" makes life feel much more sustainable, maybe especially in this trans body. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing this. Something I share with folks I work with, is that when we are in a state of F/F/F our brain prioritizes the scary/dangerous information in order to watch out for continued or potential harm. It is a way that our brain and nervous system keep us safe. When work with trauma survivors, so often the phrase, "I have no good memories of my childhood" is said. After a period of time, and once consistent safety is achieved, you start to see glimmers of the positive memories come forward because the body is no longer stuck in F/F/F and it no longer needs to prioritize the dangerous and scary memories only.
The process of holding two truths at once, has been a significant part of my own therapy. My therapist reminds me of the fact that yes, there is a lot of danger and sadness and fear right now, AND I can hold appreciation for the fact that I am currently safe, the people I love are currently safe and that I can hold both of those truths at once to avoid despair and burnout.
Thank you for the work you do.